Care M. Messer -CHBE, CD(DONA)
A
medical birth was the only option I thought there was. My naive
perception was that you went into labor, checked into the hospital, got
an epidural, felt nothing and got a baby out of the
deal. Isn’t that what modern medicine promises us? No pain and cute
little bundle at the end of the procedures? Compared to giving birth in
the old days - I thought - this was a better way to give birth – with
drugs…
My husband and I had been married for 14 years and had suffered six miscarriages. Having a family turned out to be a lot harder than we thought and we had given up. But
a wonderful miracle blessed our lives and we were able to adopt a
beautiful 5 year old little girl. Finally – we had the family we had
always dreamed of. We never thought that having a baby of our own was a
possibility and we had put away that dream. It came as a big surprise
to find out that we were pregnant and that it was going to work this
time. I was elated and overjoyed – and then I thought – “Oh, no it has to come out!”
As
I sat with our Perinatologist making plans for the birth of our new
baby girl, she said it looked as if I was allergic to most of the drugs
they routinely use at birth. I began to panic. I didn’t want to feel
any pain and I was being told that I “needed to find an alternate pain
management plan.” She suggested I take a Lamaze or Bradley class where
I could learn breathing methods of coping with the pain. From all the
negative media portrayals I had seen since I was young – panting “hee,
hee, hee” patterns – just didn’t seem to bring any comfort and sent my
blood pressure go through the roof! What was I going to do?
I
began talking(or ranting might be a more accurate word) to everyone I
knew. I needed help and fast. My nephew’s wife said she used HypnoBirthing® for
her two kids and swore by it. I dismissed it at first, thinking there
is no way I could talk myself out of pain through self-hypnosis – but
something made me curious so I did some research.
That’s when I found a local HypnoBirthing educator. She explained to me that HypnoBirthing could
really unlock my own abilities to birth without medication. She made me
feel like I could do it and that I would actually enjoy my birth
experience. That is something I had never heard anyone say before.
Our instructor
taught my family privately in our home. Her classes were so informative
and empowered me to birth my way and enjoy the whole experience. My
husband was skeptical at first but soon became aware and convinced of
the power of HypnoBirthing. We listened to our relaxation CD’s, practiced our scripts and bonded with our unborn child. Our older daughter also participated in our classes and was excited to be at the birth. Our instructor also became our doula and her support was invaluable.
We decided to have our baby girl at Best Start Birth Center in San Diego.
It was truly one of the best choices we could have made. The midwives
were wonderfully supportive of our non-medicated birth and had a lot of
experience with HypnoBirthing®. I did the majority of my labor at home with my family and then met our doula at the Birth Center a few hours before Finnley’s birth.
Our doula
kept us at a relaxed place during our birth experience. She was our
guide through this new adventure and experience. I felt very little
discomfort and was able to labor in the water. Labor was an
exhilarating time for me. Make no mistake - HypnoBirthing does NOT
promise pain free labor. But it does offer relaxation and coping
techniques that allow your body to do what it was born to do. I put a
lot of time and effort into this program and I got out of just what I
put into it. I believed in what I was doing and trusted my body. I had
caretakers around me that were completely on board with what I wanted
and I felt safe. We welcomed a beautiful baby girl, Finnley Kate into
the world in February of 2008.
My own experience in discovering HypnoBirthing®, and having a doula attend my child's birth, inspired me to become a doula myself and get certified to teach HypnoBirthing®. Sharing my own experience and love for this process has made me a better teacher and gentler human being.
HypnoBirthing®
is truly the best kept secret in town. My vision is to help women get
back to the knowledge that their bodies know how to give birth to their
babies. The use of HypnoBirthing® is a transforming experience for all involved. HypnoBirthing® left me feeling empowered, stronger and made me a better mother.
I learned for myself and will be forever grateful that finally, there is a better way to give birth – HypnoBirthing®!